Did I make the right decision

[jimymac]

Back in May me and my wife split up after 8 years of marriage. We still talk but no chance of ever getting back together. She had 2 kids going into the relatioship and I tried to raise them on my own.

Well back towards the end of May, her oldest son(17) finally got his drivers license. He has now wrecked her Sporttrac 3 times, this time he did over 6 grand in damage and got a careless and imprudent driving ticket to top it off. I tried explaining to her that State Farm is going to drop her if she does not get him off her policy. Of course she does not listen to me. She is now talking with a lawyer to try and get the ticket reduced. The 17 year old is lazy, he will not get a job and get himself out of trouble, relies on mommy to do it for him.

I look back, yes I miss my wife but I was not going to ever pay out good money to allow and irresponsible teenager drive one of my vehicles. The Sporttrac was a nice 4x4 and was not cheap. I drive a convertible Mustang, and the kid used to ask me if I would ever let him drive it when he got his license. So now they are out of my hair, off my insurance policy and I am not paying truck payments.

[Star_Cards]

well I assume that you split due to other issues outside of her son, but sounds like you dodged some stress and arguments about how to raise her son. I bet that this incident would have been a major battle for you had you not already been split.

as far as the right thing, I guess you are the only one that knows that for sure. Sometimes you'll never know for sure and sometimes it's very clear. Either way you can't change the path taken so you just have to keep moving forward.

[FootballCardFreak]

No one will ever know. The only thing you will know is that what is done is done and can't be changed. Move on and don't look back at what was and could've been.

[JesRey]

If you are happy with where your life is heading, i think you can say you made a nice move.

Best of luck to you in the future

[doniceage]

I believe you did the right thing. Sooner or later she will learn that the kid does not love her but uses her for what he or possibly they take for granted. If you were not going to bend there was a impasse and someone had to bend. You made your call and your seeing that she would have not changed as she is letting the kid ruin her life by destroying her vehicle, insurance, and their life in the long by not being responsible adults.

Best of luck and you can always be friends to help out. The problem is if you help her it seems like it helps the kids as she let them walk over her. This is not love as she preparing them for the real world. I wish you the best on all fronts in the direction your life is taking.

Don

[Oxxon]

I think you did the right thing. Don't look back just keep moving forward.

[jvansande]

You did the right thing. Now you need to cut ties with her all together. She will be asking you for money. I like the old saying" if you dont want to know, dont ask". Her and her son are not your problem anymore and you dont need to worry about her anymore. I know you still care about her, but is it really worth the stress this is putting on you? Time to let it go and move on. Tell her its her life and her son to deal with. Tell her you dont care what he does and dont want to hear it anymore