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10-09-2008, 09:50 PM #1
Where Are Our Manners?
I was browsing Yahoo, was bored, and gave this a read. I think a lot of people need to read this in general, and apply it to themselves:
http://www.divinecaroline.com/articl...56313-manners-
The cell phone etiquette especially 'rings' true for me. The line, "...and subjecting innocent bystanders to inappropriate conversations..." is so common. I couldn't tell you how many times [during my commute on the subway] I have to hear about someone's break-up or fight, or some other personal anecdotes that should be left for more private times. It may even be that people just want you to hear, which is odd to me. Another cell phone mannerism that gets me is when people let their phone go off just long enough so you can hear their crappy ringtone. Why?
The last point is outdated though, even for manners' sake. Hardly anyone writes handwritten letters anymore. Writing a letter is a waste of time when you could simply talk to the person you want to thank. I think taking the time to call actually shows more appreciation because a letter is rather impersonal in comparison.
The first line of the last paragraph is the most pertinent in my opinion. "Sophisticated technology doesn’t mean that good manners have to be a thing of the past." I have experienced many members and people in general who have manners that leave much to be desired, and the trend seems to be downward. I believe a lot of people actually feel empowered/enabled because there is a lack of consequence, for the most part, in regards to what we do online. At least in real life interactions, there are personal feelings, business situations, and familial/peer concerns to think about.
Even so, technology is seeping into the integrity and upkeep of our manners and general etiquette in all areas of life. Now, I am not saying I am totally perfect. However, I consider myself more conscious about manners and applying them to my life, and I believe more people should start doing so as well.
If you made it this far, feel free to discuss.
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10-09-2008, 09:55 PM #2
Well I already do that stuff so Im good.
Good Read Though.
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10-09-2008, 10:40 PM #3
The cell phone bit is an interesting thing. I think there is a limit because things should change with the times. Isn't that what we are all about as humans. Making things easier and better for all. We should not live with older rules in a newer age of technology. I do think it is quite rude to actually enter a check out line at any store while on your cell phone(typical emergencies/did I get the right things do apply) It seems that most people just chit chat because they can't wait 3 minutes to get outside though.
Jay
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10-09-2008, 10:43 PM #4
Most traditional concepts of manners have an arbitrary and religious basis. Here's a video I recommend.
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10-10-2008, 08:28 AM #5
That isn't as bad as people who are on their phones at a restaurant. And they always have to be talking really loud at the table next to you because even though they pay 80 bucks a month for service they still only have 1 bar so no one can hear them
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10-10-2008, 09:25 AM #6
Manners and being considerate have gone the way of chivalry...they're all dead. And I truly think being inconsiderate of your fellow man is the single biggest cause of problems today...not just cel phone and holding door stuff, but everything.
But I do really hate cel phones...any time I'm anywhere in public, mine is either on vibrate or in the truck. People didn't used to have so much useless crap to talk about, only the gossipy housewives talked on the phone that much...now everyone is a gossipy housewife. I see people driving to work at 6:30 AM talking on the cel phone. I barely talk to my wife at 6:30 AM, let alone gossiping to somebody on a cel. And you see a family out to dinner and each one of them is on their cel...quality family time! Anyway...I hate cel phones, I hate ringtones, I hate ringback tones, etc, etc, etc...
/rant
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10-10-2008, 10:52 AM #7
not sure how you can say manners came from religion. Care to elaborate?
also, as for the video, while the woman is annoying and i hate being talked to like a kid, she is also right. Most big businesses say that peoples attitudes, mannerisms, and the way they act factor in to their decisions to hire someone.
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10-10-2008, 06:37 PM #8
One big thing that is almost universal in our society is the sense of being busy.
To me, it is something like this - if you show up early to a meeting or another event, you are not important enough to be busy. Even socially, you always hear of being fashionably late. I think that mentality is very harmful to our manners, as people will not take the time to show courtesy to others who do not appear 'busy' as perceived through the norm of society mentioned above.
If you are not on your cell phone, you are not busy. If you are not texting someone, you are not important. If you do not get a call that interrupts class or work for everyone else, you are not big time. That is what we have come to...the only way to change that is to change our perceptions of how the use of technology impacts our lives, internally (individual perception) and externally (perception of others unto you).
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10-10-2008, 06:41 PM #9
Kudos to the above posting...
I live by the mantra - early is on time, on time is late, and late is unacceptable.
Wish more people did the same.
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10-10-2008, 08:16 PM #10
I went to Niagara Falls today..you want to talk about manners? There was a couple there that I swear I thought were going to "do it" right in front of everybody. They're touching each other like crazy, and really making out...get a room!
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