Coporal Punishment

[Wickabee]

I'm not going to deny it can work, and I never say never. At this point, for me, I see it as ineffective. At the very least, I don't want to take away any effectiveness it does have as an attention-getter by overusing it or using it as punishment. I got spanked a few times, but only with the hand. I never got the spoon or belt or switch or anything like that and I do know I will never use any instrument like that to spank my child. Just me.

[AUTaxMan]

I believe in it and employ it, but I wouldn't want a non-family member to do it. It works on some better than others, depending upon personality. It should be applied on a case-by-case basis. I got the hand, spoon, switch, etc., and it worked. None of it worked on my little sister.

[habsheaven]

My little sister never received corporal punishment from my parents. Not that she ever really needed it like my brother and I did every now and then.

[shrewsbury]

got it and it didn't work, but i don't think anything would have.

with my 3 girls, i think maybe a hand full of times it came to a spanking. usually a good yelling at, sent to room, privilages taken away, and when older, a long talk from me, was about all we done.

the key is not to do it in anger

[drtom2005]

Different people have different ways of parenting. Call me old fashioned but I believe that a little bit of discipline never hurt anybody. I believe that half of these kids who curse their teachers, bully other kids, get pregnant at 13 and bring guns to school would not be the way if they had parents who showed them some discipline. Not abuse but discipline.

I disagree. Most of those kid's parents probably treat their kids as friends. That should not happen until later in life. I am no a dad, but I was never physically touched by my parents. Of course, I did get punished. According to the psych literature, spanking a child doesn't work. It is like telling a child they are great all of the time or good job. The affect wears off.

[habsheaven]

I disagree. Most of those kid's parents probably treat their kids as friends. That should not happen until later in life. I am no a dad, but I was never physically touched by my parents. Of course, I did get punished. According to the psych literature, spanking a child doesn't work. It is like telling a child they are great all of the time or good job. The affect wears off.

I disagree. Spanking worked on my brother and I just fine.

[mrveggieman]

I disagree. Most of those kid's parents probably treat their kids as friends. That should not happen until later in life. I am no a dad, but I was never physically touched by my parents. Of course, I did get punished. According to the psych literature, spanking a child doesn't work. It is like telling a child they are great all of the time or good job. The affect wears off.

I don't know if this is true or not but I have read that Dr. Benjamin Spock who was against spanking children, his son committed suicide. If true I wonder if things would have turned out differently if he would have spanked his son when he started to get out of line.

[duane1969]

I disagree. Most of those kid's parents probably treat their kids as friends. That should not happen until later in life. I am no a dad, but I was never physically touched by my parents. Of course, I did get punished. According to the psych literature, spanking a child doesn't work. It is like telling a child they are great all of the time or good job. The affect wears off.

I agree with what you are saying to some degree. I am very good friends with my 17 year old daughter and 11 year old son. we hang out together, they talk to me about things that most parents probably never hear from their kids and we are very much friends. at the same time, my kids know that I am daddy. I think that it is OK to be friends with your kids but you have to maintain the reality that you are the authority figure.

[habsheaven]

I agree with what you are saying to some degree. I am very good friends with my 17 year old daughter and 11 year old son. we hang out together, they talk to me about things that most parents probably never hear from their kids and we are very much friends. at the same time, my kids know that I am daddy. I think that it is OK to be friends with your kids but you have to maintain the reality that you are the authority figure.

I have the same relationship with my two daughters. They talk to me about everything and anything. It has always been that way. They still know who daddy is though. I think if you do it properly you can wear both hats (friend & father).

[mrveggieman]

I have the same relationship with my two daughters. They talk to me about everything and anything. It has always been that way. They still know who daddy is though. I think if you do it properly you can wear both hats (friend & father).

Agree. Since I am an adult now I can talk to my mother about anything. As a child there were certian conversations that we could have not had. Even though I am grown I still respect her as my mom.