Father Indicted For Beating Daughters Over ‘Twerking’ Video

[mrveggieman]

http://www.inquisitr.com/603749/fath...werking-video/

[Monsterx]

Yeah, that usually happens after beating your kids with a cord...

[Wickabee]

I'm gonna take a leap and say this isn't necessarily a bad guy.
I can see this being how he was punished as a child, and a furthering of the abuse cycle. I'm not condoning his actions, just trying to understand them.

My guess is he saw this and it triggered the "my daughter is acting like a little hoor" response. If he was beaten as punishment, and the severity depended on the transgression, this is an understandable reaction.

Honestly, this is one of those cases where I see potential for rehabilitation, not knowing, of course, anything else about the case. One thing the people involved need to remember is that, if this is a cycle of abuse type of thing, those daughters are going to need rehabilitation as much as he is. Chances are he's hit them before, which means that cycle has already been passed down from parent to child. If everyone focuses solely on punishing him and/or rehabilitating him, his grandkids stand a good chance of being beaten by his daughters. Once that cycle hits (so to speak) the next generation, you have to be worrying about the one after that.

Unfortunately, I think a lot of people will and are screaming for his head without thinking about this aspect. If this is the classic cycle we hear so much about, why cry for his head? The cycle exists because it's taught. That means it can be untaught. This guy needs help, his daughters need help and I suspect his wife needs some help too, though I'm not saying I necessarily think he beats her, just that even if he doesn't, this sort of behavior is often an indicator of other forms of abuse.

[habsheaven]

I'm not going to judge the guy. I have girls that were 15 and 12 at one point. He has his hands full. I would have never resorted to a cord, but I have taken my belt off on one occasion. In hindsight, it ended up being one of the best child rearing decision I ever made. My oldest went from being a rebellious teen to a respectful young adult in a single day.

[Monsterx]

I'm gonna take a leap and say this isn't necessarily a bad guy.
I can see this being how he was punished as a child, and a furthering of the abuse cycle. I'm not condoning his actions, just trying to understand them.

My guess is he saw this and it triggered the "my daughter is acting like a little hoor" response. If he was beaten as punishment, and the severity depended on the transgression, this is an understandable reaction.

Honestly, this is one of those cases where I see potential for rehabilitation, not knowing, of course, anything else about the case. One thing the people involved need to remember is that, if this is a cycle of abuse type of thing, those daughters are going to need rehabilitation as much as he is. Chances are he's hit them before, which means that cycle has already been passed down from parent to child. If everyone focuses solely on punishing him and/or rehabilitating him, his grandkids stand a good chance of being beaten by his daughters. Once that cycle hits (so to speak) the next generation, you have to be worrying about the one after that.

Unfortunately, I think a lot of people will and are screaming for his head without thinking about this aspect. If this is the classic cycle we hear so much about, why cry for his head? The cycle exists because it's taught. That means it can be untaught. This guy needs help, his daughters need help and I suspect his wife needs some help too, though I'm not saying I necessarily think he beats her, just that even if he doesn't, this sort of behavior is often an indicator of other forms of abuse.

I understand your point and agree, he can be rehabilitated. However, he beat his kids with a cord, and his wife was scared enough to call the police. There are consequences for actions.

[Wickabee]

Where did I say he shouldn't face his consequences?

[mrveggieman]

I'm not going to judge the guy. I have girls that were 15 and 12 at one point. He has his hands full. I would have never resorted to a cord, but I have taken my belt off on one occasion. In hindsight, it ended up being one of the best child rearing decision I ever made. My oldest went from being a rebellious teen to a respectful young adult in a single day.

See habs you can follow the biblical principle of spare the rod spoil the child.

[habsheaven]

See habs you can follow the biblical principle of spare the rod spoil the child.

veggie, I grew up under that very principle. Felt the sting of my father's belt a few times a year (always deservedly so). My wife was adamant about not administering any kind of corporal punishment despite my protests when our children grew up. It worked great for my youngest, but my oldest was a nightmare until the day I had had enough.

[Monsterx]

Where did I say he shouldn't face his consequences?

My mistake. It's hard to decipher your view when you're making excuses for his behavior.

[Monsterx]

veggie, I grew up under that very principle. Felt the sting of my father's belt a few times a year (always deservedly so). My wife was adamant about not administering any kind of corporal punishment despite my protests when our children grew up. It worked great for my youngest, but my oldest was a nightmare until the day I had had enough.

How old was she when you used the belt last?