bizarre love triangle

[dirtydistance]

Well nothing adult-rated or obscene to be mentioned here so no need to worry, but wow, this really isn't what I need right now. My ex and I had been having some rocky times for a while now. She's a 30 year old single mother of 2 kids and I'm 26 and she was my longest relationship(nearly 4 months). Anyway, we had another big fight on Saturday and that was the end. In the meantime, one of my closest guy friends had been having problems with a girl he was seeing. This guy is a few months older than me and I know him from the local running scene as we trained and raced together.

I haven't talked to him much lately except for Saturday night when he was asking if I wanted to go to the bar and I declined because I was tired from work and upset about my relationship ending. I talked to her on Sunday after our big fight on the phone and we kind of made up and agreed to be friends. She's still texting me everyday though about random stuff and says she hasn't been seeing anyone.

However, I went onto this online message board she frequents and chats with a bunch of women and yes....apparently for the last couple weeks, she's had a crush on this friend of mine, and they hung out and watched a movie last night.

So wow, I guess I'm a sucker. I guess now I found my motivation to start running seriously again and take it to a whole new level, haha. But this sucks. I could try dating his ex, but I know she's a total psycho, so what would you do in this situation?

[Mooche]

Wow, man.

That is a really weird scenario, I don't even know what to say.

[TheTGB]

Don't date the psycho. It won't be good in the long term, maybe only temporarily to fill the void of the ex. In the meantime, take the time to "get over" the last girlfriend and get your head back on straight. Then you can try finding someone else.

[WilyWestbrook0]

Don't even try dating psychos just to get back at people. I was fortunate to have never dated a psycho, but my fiance did before he met me, and it's never something you want to get in. Try to find a nice, stable, devoted type..it's always the best policy.

[dirtydistance]

Oh, I was joking when I said about dating his ex. I wouldn't stoop to that level and I do have someone potentially in mind. Honestly, I think with this whole scenario is, that they aren't going to last and I don't wanna see him getting hurt by her. Actually I think it probably has to do with the fact that he reminds her of me, just a little more mature. Which maturity was a big reason for our differences.

Also, when I said her and her friends were immature for their online gossiping and facebook nonsense, she told me that baseball cards were childish.(This was because she saw me and my cousin rip about 10 boxes on Christmas Eve after dinner)

Figured I'd get that out into the light, lol.

[OnePimpTiger]

Tough break man, sorry to hear it. It always stings like a @!#$ when you're dealt a hand like that. I wasn't always the best at dealing with these kind of situations and I'll be the first to admit that, but I was young and dumb then and I realize now the best thing for me was to take a step back from the whole relationship thing and just spend more time doing the things I like to do. It sounds like you're already thinking that way with the running thing, so just put your energies into things you enjoy and you won't have as much time or energy to dwell on the bad stuff. Hope everything works out for ya.

[angel0430]

Don't worry man. It sucks but u will find someone better. That thing happens all the time so u r not the only one.

[Star_Cards]

I don't know the people, but you only have 4 months invested so that's very minimal. You did agree to be friends so it seems like she has every right to date him if that is what they are doing. I'd just cut your loses with her and with your friend, it doesn't seem like you are best friends but you'll just have to decide whether or not it bothers you to see if you want to be friends with him. Like I said it seems like you weren't really tight friends so I don;t think he broke any guy code by hanging out with her.

yeah, I'd stay away from his ex. LOL

[JeRmZ]

Kick in the Door wavin the Four Four ... all ya heard was Dirty don't hit me no more!


no seriously, move on man! Distance yourself from both of them. Go and have fun, find some "strange" and enjoy life like a 26 year old should!

[JesRey]

Well at least you weren't in a relationship that long. 4 months isn't anything. But i understand how that feels. My friend did that too me the next couple day after i broke up with my ex.