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08-16-2012, 02:50 PM #1
Marriage discussion
Here's an idea. Some of us are married some are engaged and some are nowhere near getting married right now. Use this thread to ask questions about marriage, how to maintain your marraige or when is the right time to get married. You can even ask questions about divorce if you like. To tie this in to P&R feel free to offer biblical (or any other holy book of your chosing) advice on marriage. Or if you do not believe a holy book just speak what's on your mind. Also let me put this legal disclaimer out there this is only to ask general questions and to give your opinions and none of the information provided on here should be used in lieu of seeing a liscenced professional.
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08-16-2012, 02:52 PM #2
I think one thing that would make a huge difference is if people went into marriage with the attitude that divorce is not an option. Now, my parents are divorced as are multiple people I know so I am not bad mouthing people who have been divorced. Just saying that I have witnessed a lot of people who got married only to get divorced when things weren't perfect. Divorce rates weren't lower in the past because people didn't have problems, they were lower because people stuck with it.
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08-16-2012, 02:54 PM #3
I just got engaged, so I'm welcome to all advice!
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08-16-2012, 02:57 PM #4
Yeah no matter what you do, do not ever feel pressured to get married because you have a child, you are getting to old, or you want to morrally have sex. When it is the right time to get married you will know it. Also enjoy the single life while you can. The lines of divorce court are filled with guys as well as girls who wanted to be married on paper while still living the single life.
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08-16-2012, 03:11 PM #5
I got married on my 22nd birthday. I am 46 now. I knew I wanted to get married as soon as financially possible and was lucky enough to find a young woman that had similar priorities. We actually "dated" in grade school prior to going our separate ways and meeting back up in our early 20's. Marriage is a lot of work and I think ensbergcollector makes a great point; you really have to believe in your vows.
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08-16-2012, 03:18 PM #6
Wow when i was 22 getting married was on right up there with getting shot in the head of things that I want to do.
Seriously though marriage is a lot of hard work and I know this dosen't apply to habs but it helps to have God in your marriage because lord knows I have to do a lot of praying for patience in dealing with my wife. 
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08-16-2012, 03:28 PM #7
to a positive, uplifting thread! We need more of these around here.
One thing that has always stuck with me that I plan on remember when I get married (I'm 24 now and dating the girl I would like to marry in the very near future) was an interview with Will Smith. They asked him at the time how he was able to keep his marriage steady when so many in Hollywood were getting divorces. He answered "Divorce simply is never an option for us."
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08-16-2012, 03:42 PM #8
I got married just after my 26th birthday. We had been together for a few years already and had both decided neither of us could stand anyone else for an extended period of time. We didn't need to get married, but it made the moms happy. I agree with the above that too many people go into marriage thinking divorce is an option. While I have known divorces that were necessary (both parties are much happier and get along better now) but I've also seen lots of divorces that were, well, selfish on one party's part. I also, and don't think I'm bashing Christians here, know of more than a few Christians who are now divorced after getting married "because I'm not waiting any longer to have sex". Lots of single mothers I know played that card and lost.
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08-16-2012, 04:04 PM #9
Having graduated from a Bible college I can tell you this much, 1.) you're not bashing at all and 2.) it happens WAY WAY too often.
There were kids who were freshman and sophomores, 18 and 19 years old, getting married after literally 2 months after dating each other. More often than not, it's a disaster waiting to happen.
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08-16-2012, 04:13 PM #10
You know I really do love my wife but sometimes I wonder how my life would be if we never met. Then sometimes I wonder how I could live without her. Marriage has it's ups and downs. Marriage can be drama but so can a divorce. We are working on things but we will see how it turns out.
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Originally Posted by habsheaven 
